Bonding and attachment

Bonding and attachment.

Objectives. Recognize the importance of bonding and attachment and the impacts of secure attachment on early childhood development..

What is Bonding?. Bonding Bonding is about the love, care and concern that are unique to your relationship with your baby. Bonding usually occurs in the first weeks after a baby is born, and is a feeling that originates with the caregiver You may feel that you've bonded with your baby before she's born. Maybe your baby's first kick made you feel overwhelming love for her. If it didn't, that's fine. Bonding can take longer. It can happen at birth, or at any time during your baby's first year. An understanding of your babies cues. Bonding doesn't come naturally for everyone. It's understandable if it takes you time to bond with your baby. Something you can't help may be affecting the bonding process..

What is attachment?. Attachment usually develops in the first two years of life and is a sense of safety that ebbs from the child. Attachment is the result of the child responding to the feeling of being wanted by her parents. Attachment begins as the parent/child relationship develops. Attachment is about both you and your baby. It's about how you build a relationship over time that helps your baby to feel secure and loved, and ready to face the world. It’s interactive and reciprocated Once an attachment is formed, it’s never fully replaceable (and it shouldn’t be) When a child is raised in a caregiving network, they can develop attachments to more than one caregiver. Attachment varies among different cultures. Ex: Nuclear family vs extended family/community connections.

Bonding and attachment is An inherent biological response to meet the needs of a child..

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When children bond and attach they are better able to:.

Attachment Theory based on the work of John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth.

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Negative Outcomes. Injury Affect regulation Attachment Growth Developmental delays Soothing.

Challenges that can effect bonding and attachment.

Other causes to bonding and attachments challenges.

Early motherhood and bonding and attachment. Becoming a parent at an early age can delay normal adolescent development, and this can disturb the development and skills necessary for maternal behaviors that nurtures secure attachment Teenagers are egocentric and independent Less likely to receive adequate prenatal care. Statistically more likely to be low income. Adolescent mothers are more likely to have depression and higher levels of stress causing decrease in attachment and bonding.

Childhood Experience Being shamed when you messed up or did something wrong Having adult responsibilities at too young an age Parent who gave you the silent treatement as a punishment Caretaker who took it personally when you misbehaved Being physically, sexually, or severely emotionally abused. Being praised for your accomplishments with little curiosity about your inner-experiences Unmet Attachment Need The need to feel worthy and lovable as a person, even when you mess up The need to have caretakers who were willing to protect you emotionally, and put your needs first The need to feel emotionally safe, and that you won't be abandoned when you make a mistake The need to learn and grow from childhood mistakes, instead of learning to "be good' to keep your caretaker 0k The need to be able to trust your caretaker is safe and won't harm you The need to feel you are valuable for your whole self, not just how you look or perform How it Can Show up in Your Relationship Being overly defensive from real or perceived criticism from partner Being overly independent; controlling your partner; over care-taking your partner Difficulty allowing your partner space when there is conflict; panic over conflict Feeling the need to control your partner's feelings by hiding your thoughts, feelings and/or behaviors Inability to fully trust your partner; staging in abusive relationships; dysregulating during conflict Difficulty emotionally connecting; placing too much emphasis on appearance and achievement.

How Children Experience Removal from their Caregivers.

Bonding and attachment for children in foster care.

Does the child. Make/maintain eye contact Make and maintain efforts to get/stay in physical contact with parent Appear alert Respond to people Show interest in the human face Track with his/her eyes Vocalize frequently (Coo, babble, jargon) Recover from being upset Appear to be easily comforted.

Does the child. Explore their surroundings Check in regularly with the parent Seem relaxed and happy Show emotions in a recognized manner Use speech appropriately React positively to physical closeness Show a response to separation Note the parent’s return Show signs of empathy.

Does the child. Behave as though s/he likes himself Show pride in accomplishments Accept adult imposed limits Verbalize likes and dislikes Try new tasks Seem relaxed and happy Establish eye contact Move in a relaxed manner Smile easily React positively to parents being physically close.

Still face experiment.

What are your thoughts on the previous video?. The Baby will develop a sense of basic trust, perceiving the world as a nurturing and safe place. The Baby will grow to feel confident in their ability to signal mom to get needs met. Baby’s emotional, social, verbal and cognitive development are stimulated leading to positive childhood development..

Ways to strengthen bonding an attachment. Constantly express love for your child Give them attention Model Social Skills – announce what you are doing Develop traditions and rituals – helps with security Listen and Talk – practice being there and just listening Eat meals together Nurture children – hold, rock, cuddle, gentle physical contact Validate their feelings Adolescent mothers may need help interpreting babies cues Be consistent, predictive, repetitive Limit media distractions Be patient Take Care of Yourself.

nonverbal communication to create positive attachment.

Bonding and attachment doesn’t happen overnight.

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